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You Gotta Be Real! Really!

March 12, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life In General

How many times have you asked someone, “Hey, how’s it going?” only to be barraged with all the woes and cares and problems they have. More information than you bargained for?  Really, do you want to know someone’s worst day scenario, or are you just being polite? 

Most of us are truly caring people, but we’re not in the counseling business.  What we really want is to show our concern.  And have a nice day.  But there are those among us who do need a sympathetic ear, someone to lean on from time to time.  Are you one of those people? 

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Learn To Change Yourself

March 12, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life Coaching

When we learn to change our selves, through love, integrity and acceptance, we begin to add value to our own personal selves. And when we add value to our personal selves, we now have something to give others. We cannot give what we don’t have; that includes a strong character. So rather than trying to change the world first, begin changing from within first. Change for the world will automatically happen.

Don’t wait for life to happen. Make it happen. Do it now. The power of choice is yours!

You have a choice on who you want to be and how you want to feel.

When is your now?

“Begin doing what you want to do now. We have only this moment sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake-” M. Beyon Ray

What can we expect from using a life coach?

March 12, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life Coaching

by Mervin Straughan

Okay, so you might have decided that there are areas of your life that need improving or that it’s time for a complete change with a new year looming. You decide you need a life coach. Do you know what’s involved?

In this post, I will provide a broad insight into what a client can expect from most – not all – non-directive coaching relationships.

A coach helps clients empower themselves to address aspects of their personal and professional lives. Some coaches deal with personal clients while others only work with businesses and other organizations that have identified individuals who could benefit. Some work with both types.

Either way, there’s an early discussion around expectations and about the role of the coach. An effective coach sets out to create a trusting and confidential environment in which the client can speak openly and explore the areas they would like to address.

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Time For A Change?

March 12, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life In General

When you begin to really look at the true potential of your life, you begin to realize that you are the master of your life, and you get to design what you want your life to look like.  It’s time to imagine the infinite possibilities that await you; the chance to begin anew.  It’s an opportunity to start fresh in a new job, a new relationship, create never-before-imagined dreams, forgive and release old memories.  You get to break free of negative thought patterns and let go of habits that don’t serve your highest interests.

“Every time you are tempted to react in the same old way, ask if you want to be a prisoner of the past or a pioneer of the future.  The past is closed and limited, the future is open and free.”   -Deepok Chopra

Call today to inquire about what you want to design your life to look like.  It’s easier than you think.

Sympathy and Kindness

March 12, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life In General

What we give, we get, as the old saying goes.  When was the last time you lent a hand, or gave someone a shoulder to cry on?  We all need each other, especially in times like these.  Let your light shine on someone’s life today.  Call up an old friend and find out what’s new, or get back in touch with someone who made a difference in your life; invite your sister or best friend to lunch.  You’ll be surprise how good it makes you feel, and you’ll never guess the impact it has on someone else to know you’re thinking of them. My family lives all over the country and I rarely get to see them.  My sisters live in the four corners of this country; my mother lives out in Lake Havasu City, AZ which is very difficult to get to.  I make the trips, once or twice a year, to see them.  They’re all so busy with their lives and I am with mine, but I make the time.  You can too.  All too soon the years fly by and you’ll wish you had connected more often.  Try it, even if it’s just a phone call. We have to stay connected in order to feel connected to our own life.  Sympathy is a gift you give when someone is having a difficult or devastating time; kindness is a gift with no expectations in return. But the rewards you feel in your heart can make your day.

Coaching Outside the Box

March 12, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life Coaching

Ben Fletcher at the University of Hertfordshire in the United Kingdom devised a study to get people to break their usual habits. Each day the subjects picked a different option from poles of contrasting behaviors — lively/quiet, introvert/extrovert, reactive/proactive — and behaved according to this assignment.

So an introverted person, for example, would act as an extrovert for an entire day. Additionally, twice weekly, they had to stretch to behave in a way outside their usual life pattern – eating or reading something they would never have done.

What do you think was the biggest change in the group?

The remarkable finding was that after four months, the subjects had lost an average of eleven pounds. And six months later, almost all had kept the weight off; some continued to lose weight. This was not a diet, but a study focusing on change and its impact.

The Underlying Principle

Requiring people to change routine behavior makes them actually think about decisions rather than habitually choosing a default mode without consideration. In having to actually process decisions actively, they exercised their choice and decision-making abilities, extending to other choices such as what to eat, and what not to. Once becoming aware of actively making choices, they could decide what’s in their best interest.

“The box” most of us are in is the result of programming and conditioning. And it is self-created in adulthood. Recognizing yourself as the author, the creator of your story challenges an assumed model and leads to the deeper question, “How do I create something else instead?” And, “What will the ‘something else’ be?” Coach outside the box and watch your clients flourish!

Dave Krueger is Dean of Curriculum at Coach Training Alliance and CEO of MentorPath™, an executive coaching firm helping professionals write the next chapter of their life

100 Things To Do Before You Die

March 12, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life In General

After the recent death of Dave Freeman, co-author of “100 Things to Do Before You Die,” after hitting his head in a fall at home on Aug 17th, 2008, I thought this might be of relevance to you.

(CNN) — Cindy Haynes was 42 when she made her decision. All of her life she had been a wife and a mom. Now her kids were growing up; her divorce was being finalized, and she had just landed her first real job.

“I decided that there were two groups of people in life,” Haynes said. “Those people who went out and did and do, and those who dream about it and never really accomplish anything. I decided to be a doer.”

Now 47, Haynes has backpacked through Europe — three times. She’s been to the top of Machu Picchu in Peru. She’s gone to China, New York City and a Yankees game. She has sung at the famous Cavern Club in Liverpool where the Beatles first met their manager, and she’s seen the Iditarod sled dog race in Alaska.

“I don’t want to get to my dying breath and wish I had done something,” Haynes said. “I want to get to my dying breath and say ‘I did it. I overcame it. I became it.’ No regrets.”

“I’ve learned that when you put your dreams and goals on paper and actually plan to accomplish them, you can actually make them a reality,” said Eric Shoen, a 31-year-old from Rochester, New York.

By Jacque Wilson, CNN