Tuesday, October 17, 2017

Setting Positive Boundaries

Boundaries help us stay true to ourselves and create personal privacy, balance and respect. Being aware of our own boundaries helps us to know and understand other people’s boundaries and to respectfully honor them.

People who do not have boundaries often exhibit bad behavior such as; coming into our personal space uninvited, asking inappropriate questions, taking things without permission and speaking about our personal business to others without permission. If this happens to you regularly, then it is time to check in with your own boundaries and see if they need some adjusting. What messages are you giving to others? You may be thinking one way but projecting a different message with your words or behavior.

Setting a boundary can be as simple as saying no. It also is having a firm idea of our own personal space, respecting ourselves and clearly communicating our intentions and boundaries to others. This can be stated out loud, energetically and using body language. On an energetic level if we do not have strong boundaries we can attract people to us that can tap into our energy, drain us and bring with them bizarre and erratic behavior. Ever been in a grocery store and wonder why all the odd people come up to you and start a conversation? These folks can make you feel like a “crazy” magnet. This is a sign to check your energetic boundaries. Be aware of how open your energy field is and pull it in if necessary. Setting positive boundaries is an act of self empowerment.

It allows us to be in personal relationships, enjoy intimacy and be a good friend. When we are comfortable with how we own our personal space, information and energy, we are comfortable sharing them with others knowing they will be respected and that we are safe.

For Today : I will be aware of my boundaries. I will also pay attention to other people and their boundaries. If someone is not respecting one of my boundaries I will take loving action to enforce my boundary. I will also look at my behavior and see if I am sending the wrong message through my actions. If I am, I change my behavior to honor my truth and my boundary.

Thank you to Lisa Joiner; a regular contributor to Maria Shaw’s StarScopes Newsletter!

Personal Insights

February 23, 2013 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Coaching and Coping

 

Do you ever wonder if you will ever get the life you want?  Sometimes we have to go backward a bit in life before we can move forward.  If you find yourself at this crossroad, you are among the majority of people that begin to question life and what’s in store.

Start by assessing what you KNOW and LOVE about your life.  This could be as easy as listing immediately what comes to mind.  Your health, your spouse, close friends, and most importantly, what you KNOW and LOVE about yourself!

This simple exercise will help you get perspective so that you can move on in the right direction, and hopefully, find a clear path to your next most important step in creating the life you love!

1.  Write down the best qualities you possess; don’t be shy, you’re the only one who will see this.  Honesty? Integrity? Super-mad cooking skills?  Bring these wonderful features to life on paper.

2.  Imagine what YOU would say to yourself right now, about how you feel and how you are handling the stress and indecision in your life.  What advice would you give yourself?  Talk to the mirror if you have to.  Or write down your best recommendations based on your experience and/or knowledge.  You may be surprised at what you come up with.

3.  Be gentle with yourself.  You’re going through a preliminary metamorphosis.  Give yourself  “time to work things out” mentally.  Take your time.  There’s not big hurry on this step.

4.  Be quiet and still.  Listen for that inner voice that gives you direction.  Take a walk.  Watch your pet play. Sip a coffee at your local coffeehouse and just listen. 

5.  When you feel inspired, write down your thoughts.  All ideas and thoughts are messages to you from your subconscious.  Even if that thought seems really wild and “out there”, pay attention.  You may come up with a brilliant idea and clear path to follow.

6.  Wait 24 hours before you take any new actions.  Sometimes letting things settle in a bit before you move ahead gives clarity and purpose to your actions.  And, you may be inspired to see beyond the current decisions you’ve made to bring about a more productive end result.

7.  Finally, pray or meditate on this new thought.  Sometimes our angels, guardians, or the Universe will put into place all the people, circumstances and opportunities we’ve been waiting for when we relax, let go, and allow our lives to unfold.  Conscious effort, meditation, prayer and putting faith in the right outcome will produce miracles in your life.

If you need help figuring out your ‘next step’ in life, contact me.  I help people uncover their true talents, most appropriate career choices and hidden blocks.  I offer a  30 minute complimentary consult. Or, find out how you can discover your hidden talents and abilities through your handwriting in a personal Personality Profile offered in three convenient and easy to understand formats at very affordable rates.

The time to start is now! 

  239-272-5520, or email me at:  jmarie0114@msn.com

Living the Life of Your Dreams

July 23, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life In General

I found this article today online and thought I’d pass it along.   It’s from a wonderful websight called Daily Om.

The Life of Your Dreams
Waking Up  
 
 

 

Many of us are familiar with the experience of waking up to the fact that our lives are no longer working the way we have set them up. Sometimes this is due to a shift occurring inside ourselves over time, and sometimes it is part of the larger shift that is currently affecting all humanity. Change is happening at such an increased rate that it is difficult to predict what the future holds. As a result, many of the old ways of planning out a life are no longer applicable, and if we cling to them we feel strangely out of tune with reality. If we are in tune with the energies around us, we will begin to question ideas that just a few years ago seemed sensible.

In the simplest terms, the shift we are undergoing right now has to do with recognizing ourselves as being more than human, remembering that our earthly aspects are a very small part of who we are. In truth, we are multidimensional beings. When we begin to realize this, the life we planned for a limited conception of ourselves no longer fits. We must meet the needs and qualifications not only of our bodies but also of our souls. This realization dawns slowly for some and with the suddenness of a bolt of lightning for others, and we all must find the way that works for us to integrate this new and larger sense of self into our life plan.

Sometimes a drastic change feels totally right, and overnight we might decide to sell our home and move to another country or quit our job and begin a second career. Other times, we allow the changes to proceed slowly, beginning perhaps with allowing ourselves to dream of a new life or just to ask the deeper questions that encourage us to discover our true purpose in life. Either way, know that this process is a natural sign of the growth we are all going through, and trust it to guide you to the life of your dreams.

Sometimes the life we planned for a limited conception of ourselves no longer fits as we evolve and change.”

What’s holding you back from your life dream?  Contact me if you’d like to discuss this issue.

Would You Walk Away?

July 13, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life In General

I used to think that walking away from a relationship was wrong, and since there was so much time invested in it, working on the issues was worth the effort.  It’s like leaving the dirty dishes in the sink all night and wondering why they’re still there in the morning.  You haven’t addressed the issues that are really important to you!

 We women are eternal optimists when it comes to bonding with our partners.  We see the possible future, our mates see the possible present.  What is it about time and change that brings a different perspective to the union we’ve made?  Living with someone is not the easiest thing in the world to master, even if your honey bun is the perfect match.  Something always crawls out of the woodwork of love.

Love is the catalyst to our soul’s desire to be connected to someone in this world.  Love is pure and beautiful, and without love, life loses it’s luster.  But then, there are those moments in a relationship when you’re watching your mate lose his temper over the football game or decides to go on a ‘man trip’ without you. What happened to the days when you were the center of his universe?  Well, nothing really.  It’s just that life settled into a more practical state of mind for the both of you.  Let’s face it, keeping up all that impressive behavior in the beginning of a relationship for an extended period of time is just, well, tiring! 

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Coming out of the Shadow – Standing in Your Power

May 29, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life Coaching

Bringing peace of mind to your life is the most important thing you can do for yourself!  When you uncover hidden obstacles and discover how you may be self-sabotaging your efforts, you will find there is an easier way to live.  Listed below are a few insights and guidelines for you to consider:

1)   Meditate.  Find a quiet spot and find the time to just sit with yourself .  Go deep inside your mind, quiet the chatter and reach for the person you know you are.  Ask for guidance to help you experience and feel your true spirit.

2)  Ask for help.  Sometimes people close to us that we trust and love can help us find our way back to our whole, true self.  Ask someone you feel will tell you the truth about what they see in you, your good qualities, your talents, and even your obstacles as they see it.  When there is new set of eyes looking at our situation, it helps to get perspective and gives us the insight to move in the direction we want for ourselves.

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There is an easier way to live

May 29, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Life Coaching

Have you wondered why your life is not moving in the direction you want?  Sometimes we get so caught up in our daily life we forget to look at what’s really important each day, each minute, and in each task we do.  Life seems to come at us at warp speed and there is no time for ourselves. 

There is an easier way to live!  Identifying the factors that make your life what it is will help you decide. It is crucial to changing your focus.  What we focus on, we get.  When you focus on busy tasks and ‘to do’ lists,  you get more of the same. 

It’s time to take inventory of your life’s lessons so you can move on from the past and create a future that truly reflects who you are. Today, why don’t you focus on the things you want most in your life?  Take 15 minutes to sit and reflect on those things that are most important to you.  It could be a new career, a new relationship, a new hobby, or a new place to live.  It might even be more time for yourself!

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What’s Your Burning Question?

May 21, 2010 by Jeanne Vandermeer  
Filed under Handwriting 101

So now you’ve explored my website/blog a little bit, what would be your most burning question for me to answer about HANDWRITING?  There are many questions I received over the years, here are a few:

1)  My handwriting changes every day, what does that mean?

2) Can you analyze kid’s writing?

3) What does handwriting REALLY show?

4) Can you tell if my husband is cheating on me?

5)  What does it mean if…..(insert stroke formation questions) example:  if I loop my small ‘y’ really, really big? 

6)  Can you analyze printing?  Or drawings?

7)  What’s the most interesting case you handled with the FBI?

Come on, I know you have a burning question, and I can answer it for you, just ask me!  I’ll do my best to give you the most eerily accurate answer to your burning question!  Guaranteed!